On the off-chance that he might stumble on this story online, we did let him know that it's out there. Not sure if he's read it or not. I tried to be upfront about the blanks I couldn't fill in and to focus on the impact his behavior has had on our family. As 20-somethings are notoriously self-focused (I was too at that age!) my hope is that seeing my perspective might be eye-opening for him. But I'm also quite sure he would take issue with some of it...