It's an interesting question. My husband often (jokingly) asks me if I wish I'd married some white doctor instead. It's kind of like having children -- through all the challenges, you can never imagine unhaving them. It's similarly hard for me to imagine what my life would have been like if I'd married another white person. Less complicated, for sure, but there's so much depth and perspective I fear I would have missed out out on. And I have the privilege of raising two strong, whip-smart multiracial children who are building even more bridges.