It's a difficult journey, to be sure, and one that never truly ends. Since writing this piece, I've read

"All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership"(https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/39937627-all-the-rage), which is absolutely the best articulation/exploration of this issue. I am making my husband read it now. I know asking new parents to read an entire book is a tall order, but I would highly, highly recommend it! Best of luck and big hugs!