I’m so glad you’re in a better place now — my husband and I have also made process but yes, it’s been a tough journey! I think it’s so brilliant to point out that the behavior of many husbands at home is the same behavior they would never tolerate on the job. In fact, I found that one of the best ways to define emotional labor was through a mock job posting for “Husbands Who Get It”: https://medium.com/muddyum/now-hiring-husbands-who-get-it-immediate-openings-nationwide-dcedf2bff705. You might enjoy it! :)