I'm copying and pasting my reply to Nicole here -- my husband certainly felt very out of place as a SAHD, and perhaps felt even more acutely as a Black dad amongst predominantly white SAHMs. We've talked quite a bit about this and here's where we've arrived: Dismantling the patriarchy, and the power structures embedded in it, is inevitably going to involve discomfort. It's going to involve people sticking their necks out and entering spaces they haven't historically occupied. Men who are truly our allies need to share that discomfort -- it shouldn't fall to women alone. The fact that schools & homes are largely female spaces has not been driven by a female desire for exclusion -- rather, these are the spaces we've been *relegated* to, by men. We've spent most of the last 50 years scratching and clawing our way into workspaces and political spheres where no one is welcoming us. I absolutely think moms should make an effort to be inclusive, but simply being a dad in an all-mom space is going to be a bit uncomfortable. Also, if more dads showed up or took on childrearing responsibilities when their kids were little, this problem would also more or less solve itself. In my experience, the best decisions are always made when there is a diversity of genders, races, and life experiences, and I would absolutely love to see dads offering more input into how things are run!