I feel this sooo much! My most-read piece so far on Medium is called "Explaining Emotional Labor to My Husband Takes Too Much Emotional Labor" and it's about how my husband repeatedly insisted he just "didn't get" emotional labor. We're in a better place now, but whew! It has been a journey. It's not just a personal conflict, but involves decades of socialization that can be hard to unravel. Can't wait to read your future story about maternal instinct!