I don't want to "train" my son to any more like me than his father. I want him to be his own person. Our role is to guide and support him but ultimately I hope he'll grow up to live as a society where he can feel empowered to draw from his natural strengths, whether that leads him to nursing or "building things."

You are right that (white) men have largely built the world we occupy. I would ask that you really lean into this and ask yourself why. Be curious. Why didn't women, who probably could have done the things you mentioned, end up doing them? Could it have anything, perhaps, to do with the fact that birth control wasn't legally available nationwide until 1960? That means while men were out building things, women were busy raising multiple kids, whether or not they really wanted to? Could it have to do with the fact that women who are highly talented in engineering and other STEM fields are still having to scratch and claw their way into male-dominated fields, AND in many cases *still* serving as primary caregivers at home?

You mentioned to another commenter that in your experience gender was insignificant in the workplace. That isn't a surprising statement coming from a man. I think if you were curious, and asked your female coworkers about their experiences in the workplace, and listened without judgment, their experiences would not match up to yours. Please lean in, ask questions, and listen to the lived experiences of the women in your life. I think you'll learn a lot.