I actually think it’s a lot more complicated than this, and though there are absolutely behaviors we can unlearn, it’s very hard to do in the context of a broader society that still reinforces and expects these behaviors. These behaviors are also socialized in us from an early age and deeply internalized. It’s unfair to put the onus on women to “just stop.” Unlearning takes a phenomenal amount of time and energy, two things we are already pressed for. And it often culminates in separation or divorce, which is a Herculean effort of its own. So yes, let’s be intentional about our behaviors but men and society at large also need to be held accountable for acknowledging, compensating, and sharing in our household labor.