As a white woman with a Black husband, I often find myself in the position of having to "represent" him so that the white people in power will take him seriously. It makes me furious that I have to intervene. He has similarly struggled with finding a Black or brown mental healthcare provider who can relate to his experiences of racism. And I've been told that my (slim) daughter has a "high BMI" as though it's something I should worry about, when the reality is that she's strong as hell, with dense, lean muscles. Thank you for sharing your story, more people need to hear it!