Appreciate hearing your perspective. It sounds like you are a father who is really making the effort to achieve equity when it comes to division of labor. Kudos!

To clarify, the Facebook group was somewhat about support, but it was far more about research. Most of what was going on there was problem-solving. Where/how do I find childcare? Where can I find this? What do you do when your child starts doing X?

I agree we need to have conversations with our partners, but the broader trends are telling and important. It shows our partners that this isn't a case of one person being unreasonable or emotional (two things we are often accused of), this is a real barrier that many, many women are coming up against.